Finding Heart in the Dark

Love and the Mystery of Betrayal

Sandra-90When my long-time partner left me a few weeks before our wedding, I fell into an unprecedented physical, emotional and spiritual crisis.

The extent of my unraveling took me completely by surprise. I had been a strong and high-functioning professional.  But now I was reduced to a broken heap on my bedroom floor. I raged and I cried and I grieved for what I believed was far too long! Distressing replays of the shock — a sign of PTSD, I later learned — haunted my days and nights, not for weeks or months, but for years.

I spent those years picking up the pieces of my shattered life and immersing myself in the mysteries of trauma, grief and loss. I did a lot of meditating and inquiry, reading, research, as well as talking to others.

During that time, I also wrote (the award-winning) Love and the Mystery of Betrayal.  I am grateful for the many notes and reviews from readers expressing their appreciation for the book. I have learned the book is primarily about grieving. It has helped many recognize the signs of prolonged grief and to move forward into healing these wounds.

In addition to the book, I offer this site as a resource for kindred spirits — for those making their way through life passages of loss: betrayal, abandonment, deep disappointment, or grief. It is my wish that you come to trust these dark times and let them lead you deeper into your heart. May you too come to sense how mystery trumps meaninglessness; love tenderizes pain; and brokenness can reveal the wonder of existence.