Finding Heart in the Dark

Love and the Mystery of Betrayal

Sandra-90Welcome to my site!

This site has grown out of my experience some years ago when my long-time partner left me suddenly a few weeks before our wedding. The extent of my unraveling took me completely by surprise and compelled my attention.

I had been a resilient, high-functioning professional.  But I was reduced to a broken heap on my bedroom floor after he left! Distressing replays of the shock — a sign of PTSD, I later learned — haunted my days and nights, not for weeks or months, but for years.

I spent those years picking up the pieces of my shattered life and immersing myself in the mysteries of trauma, grief and loss. I did a lot of meditating and inquiry, reading and research, as well as talking to others, trying to understand what had happened to me. I learned so much I wanted to share with others going through a similar experience.

So, during that time, I wrote the award-winning Love and the Mystery of Betrayal.  I am grateful for the many notes and reviews from readers expressing appreciation for the book.  It has helped many to recognize the signs of betrayal trauma and to move through the prolonged grief that often accompanies abandonment.

Along with the book, I offer this site as a resource for those making their way through life passages of loss: betrayal, abandonment, deep disappointment, or grief.

It is my wish that you come to trust the dark times and let them lead you deeper into your heart. May you too come to sense how mystery trumps meaninglessness; love tenderizes pain; and brokenness can reveal the wonder of existence.