Several years ago, my long-time partner suddenly left me, just a few weeks before our wedding. I’ve spent the past few years recovering, picking up the pieces of my shattered life and immersing myself in trying to understand the mystery of abandonment and betrayal.
During that dark time, all the doubts and fears that had once lurked around the edges, hidden by the love and affection I received from and offered to my partner, now scorched every fiber of my trust and vulnerability.
I did a lot of meditating and inquiry, reading and talking to others, caring for myself and trying to understand what was happening as I fell apart. In the process, I learned a lot about recovering from this unrecognized trauma.
I started to write what would become my forthcoming book, Love and the Mystery of Betrayal, realizing that sharing my struggles and insights might be useful to other people. I wrote because it offered a sliver of purpose to what otherwise felt like meaningless suffering.
I offer this site, too, as a resource. I hope you find something here that helps you make your way through heartbreak, knowing that hands of grace are at work with you — even in the most difficult times.
Love and the Mystery of Betrayal: Recovering Trust and Faith after Trauma, Deception and Loss of Love was written for those who are struggling to recover from betrayal in love or wanting to help someone going through this life-shattering time.
Love and the Mystery of Betrayal suggests that betrayal is a spiritual crisis and explores what it takes to heal from the blow of this archetypal experience of the soul. Unlike books based on anecdotal accounts, case studies, or analysis and theory alone, Love and the Mystery of Betrayal puts flesh on the bones of the theories about the role of betrayal in psychological and spiritual life.
Like my earlier book, Embrace of the Daimon, Love and the Mystery of Betrayal breaks new ground by naming and describing experiences that do not fall into known categories. It tackles complex and disturbing questions that are often avoided not only in politically correct circles but in “spiritually correct” ones as well.
The book is now in its final pre-publication stages.