Finding Heart in the Dark

Sandra-90So many things in life can break your heart and bring you to your knees. I dedicate this site to those who are making their way through any difficult life passage of heartbreak and loss: betrayal, abandonment, major disappointment or failure, or prolonged grieving.

I believe that we can learn to trust the hidden streams of growth and meaning concealed in our darkest days. We can learn to let the suffering and confusion lead us to previously unknown regions of the heart, regions of wisdom, strength tenderness and compassion.

My approach to loss, confusion and pain has been to dive in, to embrace whatever comes as wholeheartedly as possible. Trusting in the dark messengers life brings, we more readily shed our fears. By befriending fear, we emerge more readily from the grief and heartache to a deeper love and trust of life.

As Emerson put it: “Be not the slave of your own past—plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old.




Against our worst fears, the dark teaches paradoxically that mystery trumps meaninglessness; love tenderizes pain; powerlessness nourishes faith; and brokenness reveals the wonder of love and life.

Besides this website, I have written two award-winning books born out of difficult times. The first grew out of a series of disturbing non-ordinary states of consciousness and evolved into an exploration of the imaginal world in Jungian terms:  Embrace of the Daimon: Healing through the Subtle Energy Body: Jungian Psychology & the Dark Feminine.  Though I swore never to write another book, in the midst of a bewildering abandonment and betrayal, I felt compelled to write the second: Love and the Mystery of Betrayal: Recovering Your Trust and Faith after Trauma, Deception, and Loss of Love.