Winter and Trust in the Return of Light

Winter and Trust in the Return of Light

“Joy and woe are woven fine, A clothing for the soul divine…” — William Blake Winter solstice, the year’s end! My favorite time of the year. The veil thins between worlds. The mystery of a loving universe, our trust in the light, seems to shout...
Learning about Narcissism in Betrayal Recovery

Learning about Narcissism in Betrayal Recovery

In recovering from abandonment or betrayal, learning about destructive narcissism can help you heal. Naming this brand of emotional abuse opens the door out of denial into the facts of what has happened. What a relief to realize you are not losing your mind.  Nor are...
Recognizing Hidden Emotional Abuse in Relationship

Recognizing Hidden Emotional Abuse in Relationship

I frequently mention that our culture does not recognize abandonment and betrayal as traumatic shocks. The shock occurs partly because being deserted or cheated on usually comes as a final blow in a mind-numbing, repetitive cycle of emotional abuse. Elusive abuses of...
You Have Every Right to Outrage

You Have Every Right to Outrage

“When it comes to abrupt endings related to love, the experience is very similar to being the victim of a blunt force trauma. The symptoms are the same, and your functioning drops to the level of someone who needs to be hospitalized and treated for...