Narcissism Quotes

“…it is the betrayal of relationship trust caused by consistent lying, rather than any specific sexual act, that both defines infidelity and causes the deepest pain to the betrayed partner.”Anna Fels, MD

“When it comes to abrupt endings related to love, the experience is very similar to being the victim of a blunt force trauma. The symptoms are the same, and your functioning drops to the level of someone who needs to be hospitalized and treated for injuries.” — Dr. Andra Brosh

“But the most destructive traumas are interpersonal, as opposed to accidents or acts of nature, precisely because the victim has been dehumanised, used and abused.” —Rubert de Cesaris (everydayvictimblaming.com)

“What you tend to find on an ongoing basis is that narcissists want to keep you guessing, and insecure about where the relationship is going.”Faye Armitage, Jackson Healthcare Examiner

“Over and over again, I have learned how damaging, how unrelenting, the aftermath is from these pathological, quietly undermining relationships.” — Sandra Brown, MA

“…the first step in any abusive relationship is to seduce the victim and make them feel like they are the ones in control…Predators first build up the victim’s self-esteem and confidence…” — Eliana Dockterman

“When as cared about and safe as you thought you were is as uncared about and unsafe as you turn out to be you can never completely forgive or forget.”Mark Goulston M.D., F.A.P.A.

“Individuals who are recovering from the aftermath of a relationship with someone who was narcissistic often require months, if not years, of therapy, self-reflection, and active self-care to heal from this form of abuse. Maintaining a no-contact policy is vital to their healing and recovery.” —Andrea Schneider, LCSW

“When they deceive you about their character in order to cause you to feel a loving bond with them, they are committing emotional rape. They are defrauding you of your highest emotion, which is love.” — Donna Anderson (lovefraud.com)

“No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood. He became emotionally stuck at the time of his major trauma of separation/attachment.” — Samuel Lopez de Victoria, PhD

“Your brain is a brilliantly created computer and living with a narcissist corrupts most, if not all, of your files.” —Mayre (founder firstwivesworld.com)

“It takes a long time to heal after you’ve been involved in a narcissistic relationship – don’t let anyone try to tell you anything else . . . plan on slowly healing over a period of years.” —Mayre

“There are many different types of narcissists, and honestly more categories being created every day. To some extent narcissism is to 2014 what ADHD was to 1984.” — Mayre

I hesitate to use a pathologizing label, but underneath the so-called narcissistic personality is definitely shame and the paralyzing fear of being ordinary.Brene Brown

“I strongly believe that the emotional attachment that forms during intercourse (with a deceptive/psychopathic partner) is rape. We are unknowingly forming a chemical bond with a con artist. Our consent is based on a lie….You were tricked into feeling these overwhelmingly strong emotions” — Peace (psychopathfree.com)

Anonymous quotes from discussion forums:

“Staying with a narcissist, or making contact with an ex-narcissist, is like putting your hands directly on a hot stovetop to warm them. It will “work” for five seconds before it scalds you.” 

“Narcissists install a mental filter in our heads a little bit at a time.  Before we know it, everything we do, say, or think, goes through this filter. ‘Will he get upset if I do/say/think this? Will he approve/disapprove? Will he feel hurt by this?’ Our world begins to revolve around trying not to trigger his hurtful reactions.”

“They memorize body language and can spot a person who might feel a little vulnerable a mile away.”

“They’re untrustworthy: Don’t tell them anything you aren’t prepared to have shoved down your throat, or into your heart in the form of a dagger. And, beware, things you tell them, especially your most vulnerable feelings or experiences, will be TWISTED and used to undermine and tear you apart.

“Whatever you do, do not go to counseling with them. Narcissists are such great con-artists. After all, they succeed in deluding themselves! As a result, very few professionals see through them.”